They say a mother knows best. “Excuse me?” “Oh, hi,” “Do you have a bigger size?” And today, no one can tell Michelle otherwise. Is there a problem? “No, she just needs a bigger size.” “No, she doesn’t” Despite Amanda’s protest. “Yes. I do mom. It’s really uncomfortable.” “Come out here Amanda. Let’s take a look” She doesn’t budge. “See it’s too tight.” If you saw a mother “Right now, it is” publicly shaming her daughter into losing weight. “You are gonna look so beautiful” when you lose those extra pounds” What would you do? You might be wondering what film scene inspired this scenario “I think you’re gonna have to lose that extra weight we talked about” Well, pay close attention “Excellent. This is it.” As the action unfolds at Hazel boutique in Ramsey, New Jersey You might hear a clue, or three, to help identify the movie Stay tuned for the answer “This is what we’ve spoken about. About you losing the weight so this can be your inspiration dress” But first our young actress Amanda is fully prepared for Michelle’s hurtful words “Well I don’t think I need to lose weight.” While they leave this customer clearly concerned “Don’t you want that summer body?” But will she come to Amanda’s defense” “You need to lose weight first, okay, I’m just trying to motivate you.” “This would be what I was thinking is a good inspiration dress for her to lose a few” She tries to warn Michelle about the weight of her words. “We don’t want her to have bad body image issues” “I want her to be skinny.” “I don’t necessarily think wanting her to be skinny is the goal, but wanting to feel comfortable.” When her attempts to reason go unheeded “She looks too heavy for this” “But it doesn’t close right.” “Just hold on, I’m gonna find something for you.” She takes matters into her own hands. “I just don’t feel comfortable in this dress.” “That’s okay. Why don’t we find a dress that looks nice, first, okay?” And together they search for a bigger, more comfortable dress. “This looks really pretty. I think that would look so good on you.” While we approach from behind. “Hi there, how are you?” “Hi, hi how are you?” “I’m John Quinones. It’s what would you do?” “Oh I’ve seen this show before.” “You ever see the movie-” “No, I haven’t no.” “There was a scene in it where this happens” Her housekeeper Lets out the dress. “What were you gonna do?” “I was gonna try and find another dress, maybe change the mom’s opinion.” “And it’d fit better, right?” “Ya, you know, cause-” “I’ve done that before right try to find the dress That’ll make me lose weight and it doesn’t work because you don’t want to change yourself” As the day goes on, We see young women go out of their way to boost Amanda’s confidence Especially since its mom who’s bringing her down “That’s a pretty dress.” “Doesn’t it look good on her, I mean, if she lost a few pounds.” “No, I think it’s nice, I mean it’s supposed to be a tight-fitting dress.” “I just think you should be a little more positive, ya know?” “Ya-I was just telling you know, this would be a good inspiration for her.” “I think you should just have fun.” With Michelle clearly unmoved. “Honey, I’m gonna find you a smaller size.” “I’ll be right back.” This customer tells Amanda, it’s not her load to bear. “You should not worry about any of that at your age.” “Thank you.” I think you’re perfect.” “Perfect, she’s perfect.” “Oh! Hi.” “How are you? It’s “What Would You Do?” “Ya I know. I was shaking I was so upset.” “It’s amazing you step right in” “You try to comfort her you try to give her a punch” “Ya, I mean she’s beautiful, she doesn’t need to bring about at this age.” “She should wear whatever makes her comfortable.” “There’s a movie called-” “With Adam Sandler?” “Yeah, you remember where the mom does the same thing to her daughter. What does that do to a young girl?” “It really messed with her. I think need we need to uplift young girls. Especially like now is the time.” These next customers aren’t even old enough to vote. “Like, she doesn’t have to be skinny to feel pretty.” But they make it clear who they side with. “I think telling her she needs to lose weight and needs to be skinnier might give her an eating disorder, and I don’t think you should say that to her” “But I’m just trying to motivate” “We could be depressed that we’re skinny that doesn’t mean anything.” As the day winds down There’s no shortage of fellow teens rallying around Amanda Helping her pick out clothes “If you are confident, then you will look pretty in anything.” But nothing could prepare us for this mom. “I can’t fit this over my head it’s too uncomfortable.” “Well, then, you know what you need to do.” “What?” “Not eat so much.” “Woah. I’m sorry. She’s saying that she’s not comfortable, so find something that you’re comfortable with, okay sweetie?” “I’m just trying to motivate her.” “Oh, yeah, that’s not the way. so we go stop that’s not the way you motivate a child.” Let’s be tough. Maybe you should mind your own business. “Maybe you should your own business.” “Oh, I-, really when I hear something like that it really Upsets me. You have a beautiful daughter It’s about what’s inside here, it’s not about what you see on the outside. We all come in different shapes and sizes, and I’m so angry right now. I can’t even begin to tell you.” Time to tell her this is all a scene. “It’s okay, ma’am.” “Oh, my God.” “I am so happy that you are here right now. I was getting so upset.” “I could tell, I could tell.” “I just couldn’t… I couldn’t stand by.” “As a mom, how do you handle it?” “You know, no child’s perfect, but you encourage them to do the best they can. Set an example. Model behavior But don’t shame. Shaming is the worst thing you can do.” But that’s exactly what mom does to her daughter Bernice in the 2004 film Spanglish starring Adam Sandler “New clothes!” But those new clothes come with a catch. “You gonna lose that weight” In the film it’s the housekeeper who comes to the rescue But not before Bernice has a few words with mom. “Your gift… is a ruse.” “You buy what they’re comfortable in” What they feel beautiful in and that wasn’t happening. So I had to say something.