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CODY HARMAN: I was born a female and transitioned
into who I am today. CODY HARMAN: My name is Cody Harman, I am
31 years old and I have undergone gender reassignment surgery and hormone therapy and transitioned. CODY HARMAN: I am a chef bodybuilder and personal
trainer. I have been married, divorced, I have been a lesbian, I have transitioned into
the opposite gender, all before the age of 30. CODY HARMAN: As a child, I definitely always
felt like a boy. I grew up with boys. CYNTHIA HARMAN: I probably thought he was
tomboyish. I was tomboyish when I was growing up. So I just thought it was the same thing
I was going through. PAUL HARMAN: Hated dresses. Never liked to
wear dresses. CYNTHIA HARMAN: Yeah! PAUL HARMAN: Even, even younger, wanted to
be in boy’s clothes. CODY HARMAN: Most people don’t understand
what’s it like to be transgender and like, look in the mirror and not align with who
you see. CODY HARMAN: I met my ex-husband, that’s
weird to say, in 2007 and we got married in 2008. So it was pretty quick. So it wasn’t
like we dated for years and then we were like, ‘Oh, alright! I guess we should get married.’
It’s a little strange watching this back. I think it’s weird to see, I mean it’s
weird to see how much I have changed. But it’s also weird to like, see myself smiling
but like, knowing that it’s not real. CODY HARMAN: I had given up like, my truth in order to please other people. I was afraid
of what people would think of me. CODY HARMAN: Walking down the aisle, I think
I saw his face and he was tearing up and I was just like, ‘Am I supposed to cry? I
don’t know. Like, do people cry?’ I am standing in front of this person who I am
supposed to be like, madly, deeply in love with. I figured like, this is my life, this
is how I please God. CYNTHIA HARMAN: Cody’s relationship with
her, with his ex-husband, was probably strained. PAUL HARMAN: Initially they were happy but
it seemed like within a very short time there was a real lack of communication in the marriage. CODY HARMAN: So after I was divorced I came
out probably about 6 months later, I think. I was terrified to tell people like, I was
gay. CYNTHIA HARMAN: Oh, when Cody first came out
being gay. That time, I sensed it already. It was like instinct. So I wasn’t surprised.
But then when we heard about the transition, now that was a surprise to me. Because I wasn’t
ready for that. CODY HARMAN: Coming out as trans was definitely
harder than coming out as gay. Because it involves a lot of change. PAUL HARMAN: Unlike some parents that you
see around the world, we just decided we are going to love him and accept it and support him and give him as much support as we possibly could. CODY HARMAN: So my surgery list so far is
mastectomy. Then it was hysterectomy, so that’s just moving the female organs and that’s
required for phalloplasty. So then I had Stage-1 phalloplasty, which you know is creating a
phallus out of, you know, donor skin. Which came from me obviously. CODY HARMAN: Phalloplasty was important to
me because I feel like it was just kind of that last piece of the puzzle, just to feel
comfortable in my own self, in my relationships. It doesn’t mean that everyone needs it.
But it definitely completed me. DSEZIRAE HARTWELL: When I first met Cody he
was a very shy, very quiet little lesbian. And, and today he is this like, really hilarious,
fit, awesome guy that really enjoys his life immensely. DSEZIRAE HARTWELL: The first time I remember
him being extremely happy, it was after his surgery. He was so stinkin’ happy he had
a penis. CODY HARMAN: My next surgery would be like,
Stage-2 phalloplasty. Stage-1 phalloplasty like, you, they create your phallus and all
that stuff that you can’t get erect without an implant. So that would be Stage-2. CODY HARMAN: It’s important for me to become
a bodybuilder because I think it just gave me a sense of, it was a challenge, it was
something different that I never done before. It’s like a way to take control
of your body. The competition I was in, I actually got second place and it was the FTM
Bodybuilding competition in Atlanta, Georgia. And it was kind of, it was the first time
I had ever competed. PAUL HARMAN: He looks like a guy, he acts
like a guy and I think most people that have met him really accept him. One of my neighbours
saw him running by because he was being running for years. And she said, ‘Damn! Cody looks
good. He is a handsome kid.’ Because she knew about the transition. I said, ‘Yeah,
he is.’ CODY HARMAN: I hear a lot of, ‘Your DNA
will always say you are a female. You will never be a man. Your eyebrows are too feminine.’
People like to say, I talk gay. They can talk about my DNA all day long. Whatever
people say it doesn’t matter like, at the end of the day you can’t make everyone happy. CODY HARMAN: If I had one message I was trying
to spread it would just be like, ‘Don’t let fear run your life.’ I did that for
way too many years and if I regret anything that would be it. It would just be like putting
my life on hold just because I was afraid of what people would think of me CODY HARMAN: And that people wouldn’t accept
me. But it’s like, self-acceptance is way more important and your happiness is way more
important and people are going to follow, like, they are going to see your truth.They
are going to see your happiness and that’s like, the most important thing in life and
everything else should follow.

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